Shame Culture: Shaming Victims of Abuse

Our country is in decline as a direct result of the shifting and often declining cultural values we have experienced over the years. Psychologists and family therapists ascertain that more and more people have become entitled and narcissistic. Abuse seems to be celebrated while abuse victims are shamed. Children are no longer safe in our schools as a result of people's unwillingness to admit to problems with bullies and make the necessary changes to ensure our children's safety. Young girls are being raped at parties and it's being videoed and uploaded on youtube. You can hear the crowds that is watching and sometimes participating in the sexual abuse cheering on the abusers while emotionally abusing the person being raped or gang raped calling them whores or worse.
We seem to encourage or demand that our young ladies be attractive, however, when they conform to that standard they are called whores. When a person is raped they are usually told they were "asking for it," they should not have been drinking or dressed provocatively. This is the wrong attitude for so many reasons it is appalling.  The problem is not that someone is attractive and under the influence, the problem is the perception that uses that as an excuse to justify abusing another person. It is not OK for someone to force themselves on another person period, it doesn't matter what state of mind they're in, what they are wearing, or anything else.
Once someone overcomes the shame of having been abused they are subjected to demoralizing medical tests and an interrogation by law enforcement. Every time a victim of abuse has to recount their experience, they experience that abuse all over again emotionally. Then they are usually forced to defend themselves and convince others they did not invite the abuse and therefore "deserve it." Most victims of sexual abuse are emotionally traumatized; they miss school or work, become depressed, and in some more extreme cases develop PTSD or commit suicide. Many victims of sexual abuse require therapy or counseling of some kind as well as ample support from friends and family for recovery.



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